No I’m a girl. Yes, I think we established that with the whole birth control series 🙂 I’d like to talk for a moment about being a girl, and what it’s actually like. Specifically, I’m going to talk about ‘girl talk’.
Girl talk is this conversation about oddly personal things that girls don’t mind telling each other. Embarrassing sex situations, funny relationship oddities and beauty regimes. We’ll talk to each other about anything. But contrary to popular belief, there is a thing as too much girl talk.
My roomate Dee is dating again. She’s in her early fifties, and she’s fresh out of a divorce. Well ‘fresh’ as in only a few years ago. She’s gone through the process, and she’s gotten too now.
When I first moved in with her, the girl talk flowed. She wanted to know about everything to do with sex and relationships, mainly because she was getting back into the game and wanted all my opinions. At first I thought it was great. But then, it started to get repetitive and mundane.
I love my roommate, and I want to support her. But could we talk about something other than guys? A few weeks, or maybe months ago, I talked about meeting a guy I called ‘fake doctor guy’ because of his career path. That semi relationship fizzled out quite awhile ago, and we haven’t really spoken since. No hard feelings, just didn’t go anywhere. So why am I still being accosted with questions about him? ‘Have you heard from him?’ ‘Should you contact him?’ Really? The relationship is over.
Then I realized something last night. As much as she won’t admit it, Dee is not okay with being single. She’s been married most of her life, and she honestly doesn’t understand that I am okay being single. In fact, I love it. I like being me. I like meeting new people. I do not need a guy to validate my life. Dee says she understands it, because she feels it too. But she does. She worries about me because I don’t have a guy, and it really drives me crazy. I do not live in a generation that is made valid by our relationships. I used to think the divide in our ages made me experience a whole new way of thinking. It does sometimes. But I feel it’s tying me down.
It’s also a lot of ‘how do you feel about that?’ Umm… I honestly hadn’t thought about it. This is going to sound very masculine, but there are just too many conversations about feelings going on. Can’t we talk about nothing?
I have a feeling that in her entire life, no one has really ever talked with Dee about her feelings. And suddenly there I am, willing to talk about it, and it’s like a tidal wave all coming down on me. I honestly can’t handle it all. Sometimes I want to sit still and watch TV, and not have a conversation about feelings. I don’t want every time we talk to be a delve into our deepest emotions. I don’t want our entire lives to circle around boys. I want to be me. I want to do the things I love. I want to go out and not come back to the question ‘did you meet anyone?’ with the seriousness that only means you’re asking if I met a guy.
The answer to my original question is yes. There is such a thing as too much girl talk. Way too much. Even for a girl, there is too much, and I love girl talk.