New years is such a strange thing. We all decide at the same time of year that we’re going to be better, and then we focus on it for a few weeks, and then….nothing.
Now I’m all for improving yourself, physically or emotionally. I want to support everyone who makes the decision to change for the better. If anyone around me said they were going to get healthy, I would be right there beside them helping and supporting them with anything they need. But here’s the problem with new years resolutions. The percentage of the ones that actually stick is so low, it’s really hard to take them seriously.
My roommate decided months ago that 2014 was going to be her ‘fittest year’ ever. She’s 51, and this is going to be her best year yet. She didn’t wait for new years to come around. She started right then, and now she’s hit 2014 already well on her way. She knew it was going to be her resolution, but she didn’t wait. I admire and respect her for that. My resolution really happened at the end of November, when my relationship ended. Since then, I’ve lost eight pounds!! (happy dance for me :)) My new years resolution has change in the last month and a bit. At first I picked something specific, and now there’s lots I want to do. I feel like I’m not starting from the beginning, and therefore my resolution is a continuation of something instead of a new something. Weight is a big thing right now, but it’s slowly coming off. I chose my legs to focus on, and I’ve already been doing that. My ass has just begun to lift 🙂 and my thighs are definitely thinner. They’re getting there.
So where does that leave me for new years? Continuing what I’m doing is a good thing, but it’s not a new resolution. Does it make me more or less likely to succeed? Am I technically one of the masses?
I worked with a woman a few years ago that started talking about her new years resolution in November. Surprise surprise, it was to lose weight. I said ‘that sounds great’ and moved on, not really taking it seriously. A few weeks later, it started. She’d decided on her new years resolution, so that gave her permission to absolutely gorge herself over the holidays. It was okay if she did, because new years was going to be her big change. Guess what, new years came and went, and she was off her diet way before February.
I know that it’s hard to keep a goal. I know it sometimes feel impossible. I’ve been there. But I believe we need to learn how to change for us.
My roommate Dee is a weight watchers teacher, which I’ve mentioned before. She said that when someone in her group meets a goal, she asks them to get up and speak about their experience. How did it go? How hard was it? How do you feel? She finds it helps those still struggling as well as the person who lost the weight. It gives both motivation. The speaker gets the motivation and experience being a motivator. The listeners see a colleague and maybe friend succeeding in a positive way. She had one client, John, who’s family got him involved over a year ago. He was reluctant, and it took some convincing, but he did it. All this time later, he’s lost 80 lbs!! Holy crap John! Well done! But that’s not why I bring it up. He wasn’t there for his latest milestone, but his daughter came by to pick something up. Dee asked her to speak on his behalf, and she agreed.
What followed was a hugely emotional event. She spoke about how it had changed her family. She spoke about how unhappy he’d been, and how he’d rarely taken part in anything they did. She talked about how they all feared for his health, and how they knew they would probably lose him early. Now, everything is different. He’s active, healthy, positive, happy and a huge part of their family.
Stories like this should inspire us more than the person who just lost the weight. I’m learning more and more that the lifestyle changes more than just how we look. It changes how we feel, and how we make others feel. It changes our happiness, and through that other peoples happiness. A positive lifestyle change makes the world around you a little better. Isn’t this more exciting then a few pounds lost?
Sometimes not. I know that. I look at myself in the mirror after eight pounds and I smile. In that moment, it’s me I feel the best about. In that moment, I’m affecting only me, and it makes a big impact on myself. The problem with the people around you is there not you. They’re not in your head 24/7.
Now I’ve gotten away from my original point, whatever it was. My resolution this year is not to have a specific resolution. I want to continue on my path. It’s successful, and I want to lose the weight I gained during my relationship. I want to be fit and healthy, and strong. I want to be happy with myself.
So that’s it. That’s my resolution. This year, I’m going to love myself. I’m going to be happier. I’m going to discover new things about myself. I’m going to improve my mood with fitness. I’m going to update my style. I’m going to buy cute shoes 🙂 Anything that makes me feel more myself, the person I am, counts. I will keep track of the things that take me along this path, and weight is a big part of that. But the other factors that go into it can be so different. Learning to do eyeliner properly. Taking a quick brush up class to learn which makeup colors look the best on you. Buying a new outfit that you normally would be uncomfortable in. It’s so much more involved, and so much more fun, then just loosing weight.