I have a confession to make. When I signed up for Plenty of Fish so soon after my breakup, it was because I desperately needed someone to hit on me. Sounds shallow, but it’s the truth. I do not regret the decision I made to end my relationship, but there was still part of me that needed someone to tell me that yes, I am desirable. So I signed up, chatted with a few guys, rolled my eyes at the instantly sexual comments, and felt much better. But here’s the glitch. I met someone I really, really like.
Oh dear. What am I supposed to do now? I feel like it is too soon after my last relationship to go on a date. Also, despite the breakup, I respect my ex enough to give him longer than a couple of weeks before I start dating. But now there’s this guy, and we really hit it off, and we’ve been talking for days. He’s funny, we have a ton in common, I’m pretty sure he’s not a serial killer and I failed to mention that I was so soon out of a relationship. So what now?
I do not want to string him along. I do not want him to go away. I do not want to meet him yet. So how do you tell someone you just met ‘hey, I like you, but how about we wait a month before we take this any further.’ Lame, right?
How did I get myself into this mess. And maybe I’m stressing for nothing. We all know meeting someone in person is way different then meeting them online. I could end up hating him. And there’s still that chance he’s really a 60 year old large bald man with bad B.O.